How to develop self confidence

I wish I could tell you that you can fix your self confidence issues overnight, I really wish I could but it I did, I'd be lying. If you want me to be completely honest, facing down and winning the battle with your insecurities is tough, quitting drugs tough. And like quitting drugs, ditching insecurity is going to take some time and rehabilitation.

Identifying your insecurities - 

One of the best first steps to take on your path to confidence is finding out what your insecurities actually are. In order to do this, go through your day normal as all ways. While you're doing it, monitor all the little thoughts that pop into your noggin.

After a little while you'll realize something, it's all most like this voice in the back of your head is all ways saying things to make you uncomfortable.It's the living with out elementary school bully except now they live in your head and annoy you 27/4.

This little voice will say things that make you regret things, remind you of events you'd rather not relive, it just plain out tries to make you feel like crap. And if you listen to it, you will start to think those thoughts all the time.

For now, just go through your day monitoring every time this voice puts a negative thought in your head. Every time you get a negative thought, write it down and put it in your pocket. Save all the pieces of paper until you get home for the day. At the end of the day read it out loud and rip it up. For better results read the paper out loud and then say, You're Wrong, followed by whatever the opposite of what the note said. Do this every day.

Talking it over and chipping away insecurities -

After you've gotten comfortable with your insecurities, try to go the next step. Talk to the person really close to you about your problem. Sometimes our insecurities won't allow us to do it. If that's the case tell random people on the internet. Just get it off your chest to some other human being.

Every day try to do something small that makes you feel really insecure. Just do it. Don't think about it, don't talk to yourself and prep yourself. Just do it. The second you hesitate your inner bully will eat you alive.

The whole idea is to take one small thing that makes you insecure and do it. After you're done you'll realize that you're still alive and nothing bad happened. Just keep working at it. At first you won't do much more than say hello to a stranger. After all a person needs a little excitement in their life every now and again.

Own your mistake don't let them own you -

Mistakes happen no matter what. They're completely natural. The next time you make one, remind yourself that you're only human. Don't let your mistakes get you down. Laugh them off and try it again. Just because you made a mistake doesn't make you a failure. Just keep going.

Understand that you're awesome

No matter how you feel now, you should realize that you are one amazing human being. If you find yourself not believing it, then think of a bunch of things that you're good at. What do people like about you. Tell yourself out loud that it's ok to take pride in your abilities.

When you succeed with something celebrate it. Even if celebrating it means a nice snack from the vending machine, just do something out of the ordinary.

Several Great Advantages Of Being Confident In Yourself

Confidence is like the gateway to success. If you have the key, there is nothing that you can't accomplish and no I'm not trying to sound like some corny inspirational poster you see in your bosses office. But it is incredibly true when you think about it.

Passing Obstacles On Your Journey To Success

With a high self esteem you believe in your abilities to achieve your goals that you set for yourself. You see the goal at the end of the road and you start your journey towards accomplishing it. Since this isn't a perfect world, there will be many times that obstacles and unforseen circumstances will hinder your progress but your confidence will help you stay inspired to keep trying to reach your goal.

Creating and Maintaining Relationships

Having confidence in yourself is one of the more important parts of creating and maintaining a good relationship. When you meet someone new, you have to impress the other person enough that they become inclined to know more about what makes you tick.

Do you think someone really wants to meet and learn about some guy/girl that mopes around feeling bad for themselves all the time? Someone that makes negative remarks about anything they're asked about?

But having confidence can also help you, once you've all ready established the relationship. Self confidence keeps you up beat and positive and ready to take on whatever life has to throw at you. This type of personality is all most like a magnet for people. If you stay positive and enjoyable you'll quickly notice that people are willing to spend a lot more time and attention on you. Which funny enough, promotes even more confidence to take on this crazy thing we call life.

Succeeding At Your Job

When you believe in yourself and set goals throughout the work day, you will quickly begin to realize just how much you can get done. You will say something and accomplish it. You will believe in your abilities to get the job done. When something unforseen arises, you will quickly think of ways that will fix the problem. You will make it a point to fix things and speak up when you think something can be done better. You will be able to handle criticism and even let it make you a better person all thanks to a simple concept called believing in yourself.

When you start excelling at your work, your bosses will take note and watch your progress. When you speak up with your ideas, eventually one will get through and will work. If your superiors criticize your ideas you will just shrug it off and start modifying your idea so the next time they can't criticize it.

There are a million different ways that increasing your confidence can help you excell at your job. How you utilize this newfound confidence will be solely up to you and you alone. And you're going to make the best of it!

Life in General

Life usually has a funny way of throwing things that you didn't expect your way. Most of us out in the real world ask, "Why is this happening to me?"

But a person that has a great self image will say, "Really life, is that all the challenge you can give me?"

They will take each obstacle as a challenge to make themselves better. They believe that they have the ability to take on this "challenge" head on and come out successful and better for going through it.

They accept that life isn't all ways cherry blossoms and pony rides and a lot of the times, they'll be the one's with the short end of the stick.

So what's the difference between a confident person and non-confident person?

Well first off, life will throw them for a loop and they will spend many a sleepless nights beating themselves up over circumstances that were typically out of their control. They let the fear of failing at this obstacle rule their life and their actions.

Now which type of person do you think has a better chance at achieving their life's goal?

The person that sees a obstacle as a challenge that can easily be achieved with the right idea.

Or

The person that lets the obstacle rule their life beating themselves over how it will be impossible to surpass it.

For example:
Your marriage falls apart

A confident person says, "OK, it happened. I'm a great person, I don't deserve to be miserable about getting a divorce, I'm going to go do this or that"

A person without confidence says, "Why me, why this, why now? I will never be able to get over this."

If all the things I've said about confidence so far seems like a great thing then you just have to remember this one line.

Believe in your abilities.

Is Confidence The Real Path To Success?

We all know that confidence plays a gigantic role in our society. Having self confidence can improve the chances of you starting a relationship with someone but it can also have a huge effect on how successful you'll be throughout your life!

If you went up to some of the most important and most successful business people and asked them, "What is the most important character trait to have?" They'll probably all tell you that it would be having a high self esteem.

You see, when you truly believe in yourself and your abilities you feel good about taking risks, challenging yourself to accomplish your next achievement. You start to understand that even if things don't work out as planned, you can all ways sit back for a few and reevaluate the situation better and put the right resources in to deal with problems that came up.

With a lack of confidence, you will not feel you're able to take on your goals. You'll make excuses like, "When this is done I can work on that."  Or the ever popular, "I only have to wait for this to change before I start." You'll begin to let the doubts overrun your mind. Any time you come with a great idea, something in the back of your head will come up with a reason it will fail, so you never really strike out to achieve the things you want for yourself and/or your family.

Now, you don't want to be like that, do you? Being chained to negative thoughts all day that won't leave you alone. Constantly badgering you about why this and th
at will fail. This is why you should really consider working more on improving your self confidence.

Hopefully, you'll realize that you don't need to fear things such as failure, doubt, negative expectations. These are all things that are put into our minds when we suffer from a lack of self confidence.

If you fear things like failure, how do you expect someone else to believe in you to do well at a task? Especially if you express doubts of your abilities to other people.

Essentially it all comes down to the question, "If you don't believe in yourself and your abilities, how can you expect someone else to?"

By now, you should start understanding the profound effect that confidence can have on your success no matter what you're trying to achieve. But don't start worrying about anything just yet, you're not a lost cause. And this site is going to show you how to start building your confidence from the ground up.